A Question For Fathers Of Little Girls: Do/did You Change Your Daughter’s Diapers?
Saturday, November 21st, 2009 at
11:02 am
If you do change them, are you comfortable with it?
If you don’t, why?
Just asking because my husband is very much against seeing our 1 year old naked. I think he’s silly. I changed my 3 sons diapers with no problem, why should it be any different for a dad to change a little girl?
Moms feel free to throw your 2 cents in as well!
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I’m not a guy, but I can answeer for my husband as we have had this conversation many times!
He does not mind changing our daughters diapers. He gives her baths and does not treat her any differently than he would a boy….EXCEPT when she has a really dirty diaper. He does not like to have to “dig in the cracks” as he would say, to clean up her dirty diaper. He feels awkward doing that. Otherwise, he’s fine!
Hope it helped
I have a 3yr old girl and change tons of diapers. For the first 3days after she was born I changed all of them. I am comfortable changing diapers but I understand your husbands concern. Sometimes if a changing is particularly difficult like if they have poopies stuck to them and you have to scrub it feels weird. Also I am not big on giving her baths. I think ultimatley you have to say to yourself if its that big of a deal for you. If you can’t handle the diaper load then ask him to change if you can deal with it then move on.
I changed diapers for my daughter and son both. As did my wife.
There is absolutely nothing strange or abnormal about it. It’s normal, everyday parenting.
I would be guessing that there is something within your husbands history which makes him feel this is inappropriate behaviour. It could be a repressive religious influence or an abuse issue or some kinda strange influence form his parents or maybe even it gives him feelings within himself which he is uncomfy with.
I would say it is less of an answer you could get from any of us and more of an answer your husband would have to come up with within himself and then decide to share with you.
I would suggest ( only a suggestion) that if your situation does not require him to do this (jobs and schedules and such) then you let him off since it is obviously very uncomfy for him. Just telling him he is wrong and to do what you say will not appropriately address the underlying causes of an obvious issue. I would just allow him to avoid the uncomfy situation while at the same time, trying to find ways to encourage him to discuss it with you or a mental health professional.
It would seem that this is a mildly abnormal behaviour and it would be less important to force him into it or ridicule him when he doesn’t and more important to find out what makes him feel this way and make sure it is not a red flag precurser for more complicated problems in the future.
My husband was freaked out the first time he had to change a diaper at all. It was on my niece. We had just started dating and I had to help my mom get the kids to bed before I could leave. I asked him to help get her undressed. He was freaked for a minute but then did it. He has never had an issue. He has since changed her diaper many times.
He never has a issue changing our son, except for when he knows it is a very BIG mess.
My fiance changes our daughter’s nappy. He has no problem with doing it because he knows it is a big help to me.
I can understand if the smell from a poopy nappy is the reason why a father wouldn’t change it, but being against seeing your own children naked when they are that young is quite strange. Everyone is though.
my husband is the same way!!
hes never changed our 3 sons diapers, nor did he change our daughters!
now shes potty trained and i have to practically bribe him to get him to wipe her bottom.
i have no clue where this complex comes from.
i think its their way of saying they just flat out dont want to help!
so i remind him that one day, itll be his children having to wipe HIS old butt and slobber. but of course, he has that figured out…he’ll pay someone to do that.
cant win!
my husband said he will change our daughters diapers when she gets here. im a wuss at that stuff so he said he will be the one to step up and do it as he has no problem with it. its his kid its not like its meant to be a perverted thing. once they hit that age like maybe 2 or 3 i can see, but as a baby it shouldnt be an issue
Well, my dad changed my diaper.
theres nothing wrong with seeing her private as a baby or toddler.
the babies innocent, and its not like the father thinks of the child in anyknd of way sexual. Im pretty sure his mom saw his private when he was young…someone did. But its fine..he’s just getting the job done of cleaning up poop or pee, or just changing a simple diaper.
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my husband changes our lil girls diapers, helps her go on the “big girl potty”, and gives her baths. he is completely comfortable with all of it. only time he refuses is if he suddenly realizes i haven’t changed a diaper in a while lol
My husband changed our 18 month old daughter.
I think he is fine with it.
I usually try to make him do the messy ones lol He does it no problem.
Older brothers often have to do it, too… It is strange to have to.