Baby Shower Dilemma…would Anyone Else Be Offened If Your Mother In Law Did This?
I just can’t get this outta the back of my mind!!! My baby shower was in May and my mother in law didn’t get me a gift for the baby. Now, I’m not one who’s out to get stuff for free, this isn’t about money, but to me it’s about the moral of the whole idea. A couple of days after my baby shower(which was at my mother in law’s home, which by the way her contribution was having the shower in her home, she didn’t even clean up before hand, and she made macaroni salad…and my mother paid for EVERYTHING else) my inlaw complained to me that she was running low on cash since the shower…now months before the inlaws told me they’d get me a swing for the baby…the next day my mother in law told me she’d buy the swing and then mentioned again days later how low on cash she was running. so i told my husband to tell her not to buy the swing until she had the extra money…’cause the last thing I’d want to do was put them out of cash to buy daily necessities. So he told his mom….THEN…within the next week my sister in law (also, prego…due 6 weeks after me…I was june and she was july) finds the “crib” of her dreams….and yep mommy went and bought it for her…needless to say I bought my own swing and they bought nothing. I found out later on that my father in law gave my mother in law the $$$ in the beginning of may for the swing and it was never bought!!! Also, just in conversation my mother in law mentioned that she had had a blanket knitted for my step son when he was born and this and that(8yrs ago)…plus his bday feel a weeks before my child was born and she spent money right in front of me buying him quite a few gifts for his birthday!!! I have a pretty descend job and my inlaws know i make descend money…so I’m not sure if that’s the reason or not that she won’t buy my son anything!!! My feeling are so hurt by this. I know that my mother in law loves my son, so why’d she do this….and it’ been mentioned that they ( the inlaws) know they still haven’t bought the baby anything…i don’t think it’s a cash issue ’cause my father in law just bought a $4000 toy!!! I couldn’t stand it and I told my mother in law my feelings very nicely(don’t know if I should have) and she responded with “well…your just sooo hard to please, I didn’t think you’d like anything I got for you”…she had no basis to go off of with that remark…idk…but I just can’t get her frugalness outta my head everytime I see her!!!
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I would be offended and pissed at my mother-in-law if she did this. I am sorry, but she should have never offered the swing and then backed out and then bought your sister-in-law the dream crib.
She acted very tacky by even mentioning her money hardships to you.
I am like you though were I cannot get over stuff. Once someone does something to me like this I never forget.
I am still upset over the way my inlaws acted at my shower. They were some of the last people to show up. They were the first people to leave. The one food item they brought which was a dessert, they took with them before anyone had even started on desserts. They were rude. My sister took photos of everyone and after the shower we zoomed in on their faces and I have never seen such awful faces and scowls. Two people from their side of the family never called to give regrets, didn’t show up and sent some excuse of that they were sick. However, on the gift receipt they had purchased a bunch of other baby gifts for someone else. So basically, they lie about being sick to go to another shower. Have the intelligence to make a separate purchase. The gifts my in-laws brought could have been better. My sis-in-law gave me an outfit for when the child is 18 months old, the other in law gave me a necklace for the baby. My mother in law gave me a nice gift, but gave me no accessories so I had to go spend a lot of money to get the product to work.
I know I sound horrible complaining about the gifts, but my sis in law just got married and they paid for her wedding (it wasnt shabby) and for a gift they gave her a trip to Jamaica. We got 350 spent on us meanwhile they spent 7000 on her trip and over 40000 on her wedding.
In laws can be very funky!!!! I would give my inlaws something very funky or nothing at the next holiday and say that they were just too hard to please. Well, I could write a lot more but I have my 39th week drs appt.
I go through the same thing all the time with my mother-in-law I just deal with it and let it go..No reason to get mad or say anything they come around after about 10 years..
I understand how you feel, You have all right to feel hurt. However let it go. Some people place their griges before love. Your mother in law obviously doesnt love you a lot and to show you that she ignoring your son and didnt get anything for him. let your son grow up. His attitude will make your mother in law feel guilty. Atleast after you told her how you felt she should have brought something to make it upto you
This story is kind of hard to understand, but if I am reading it right you actually confronted your MIL about the fact that she didn’t buy your child a gift? In my opinion, that is rude.
She held your shower in her home. But in your view she “didn’t clean up beforehand” and “made macaroni salad.”
She may be cheap, but she’s also right. You are hard to please.