Have You Ever Felt Like You Want To Shake The People At Your Child’s School?
I know I am feeling particularly sensitive today, but bear with me:
My child had baby eczema, this lasted for years, right up until he was 3, but has since cleared, because I carefully apply the correct moisturisers, have never changed any of his soaps or powders, and always get products for sensitive skin, if I must buy outside of his usual stuff (such as shops own scent free baby soaps). The school have never seen his eczema flare up, because since he started there, he’s never had one.
Recently, his dry skin is back, just like in the cold weather when he was a baby – but I am making sure I keep it dry after baths, apply his Oilatum, do not change his products etc. It is very red around his neck, but I believe he has been scratching it too, as 6 year olds are wont to do!
Yesterday, his teacher pointed it out, making sure to speak veerrrrry slowly, as I am obviously stupid, and have not noticed this – So I told her about his baby eczema and how to me, this flare up seems very mild compared to how it was when he was seeing a dermatologist at the hospital, I had already made plans to check him up with his GP as I am taking my younger son for his injections today.
Today, the school secretary grilled me as if I was a bad mother on every product I use, occasionally she would say “you shouldn’t use that you know?” and I would shut her up by pointing out that if a qualified dermatologist and all of his GPs have said there is no possible way that was causing his eczema then THEIRS is the opinion I shall go with. Again, I said I had already spoken to his teacher AND made arrangements to get an appointment for him.
DO these stupid people seriously think I would neglect my son? How on earth can they have been in teaching for so long and never seen eczema? They must think I am one of those evil parents who does not care!
Has anyone else felt that people at the school need a good hard slap?
If I was the sort of mother that did not care, do they seriously think I would mend my ways because they allude to the fact? I could scream!
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I do feel for you – my 5 month old has eczema and we have regular 3 week appointments with the doctor trying different creams and things but everyone who sees him seems to want to have their say. I was given the lecture about washing powders by a woman in the supermarket the other day! I managed to bite my tongue as I’m sure she was trying to be helpful but I agree it is very annoying. He managed to get one of his scratch mitts off the other night and made himself bleed so it looks really bad but I wish people would mind their own business, I’m doing everything I can like you.
Hope your little boy is better soon. Hopefully they will grow out of it as they get older x
I know how you feel! it annoys me so much. teachers should be their for one job only, not telling us whats good and bad for our kids!
OMG i abhor public schools for this reason exactly.
does his teacher also understand stress can bring it on. why is her class so stressful for your son?
does the teacher also understand that he needs to wash his hands after going potty? – and he has to use special soap – not the cheap stuff that public schools provide. why isn’t she doing her job, there, either?
i would have to schedule an appointment with the teacher, principal, and other workers at the school including the cafeteria staff to explain what your son has (teach them like they are not the brightest 6 year olds in the class) and how you deal with it at home and how you EXPECT the school to deal with it. and YES, you can schedule it; and everyone you write down that you want there HAS to be there (legally).
get on the internet and print out anything you can find about it and inendate the school with your research.
No. But we did leave the UK to give my daughter a fair chance of a decent education.
My daughter had food intolerances when she was born. Pampaers made her come out in a rash too and so did Huggie baby wipes.
Eventually the GP prescribed a steroid cream for the rash on her bum. It did funny things to her skin and to this day, she willl be 6 in June, she has weird crinkly bits of skin where the steroid cream was applied!
In the end we went alternative with TCM. I was advised to feed her the offending foods anyway but in miniscule amounts. I was told it would allow her immume system to build up a tolerance. We did and she can eat gluten within reason and can even eat recuipes that contain egg white now but a meringue will set her eczema off.
Once in nursery she had a yoghort fruit pot for snack and when she came home and I asked her if she had enjoyed it she said NO. She told me they had put it in the microwave to heat up.
As she got to pre-school age there were more and more conflicts with the nursery and I could see the same hap[pening when she went to school proper.
So now we live in Belgium. My little angel is getting a Steiner Waldorf education as the schools are subsidized and that makes it very affordable compared to what it would cost us in the UK. They have a school doctor that practices homeopathy, I found a GP that does the same.
Most products for sensitive skin are still laden with chemicals you know. It is not the scent that does the poisoning of the body. Check these out:http://www.inspiredliving.com/organic/sk…http://www.health-report.co.uk/ingredien…
Hi
There have ben many times in the past 26 years where I have been stunned by the comments of so called professionals when it comes to the care of my children.
School staff seem to be amongst the worst for making comments based on their own knowledge and not anything else, it makes me wonder how my children where educated at all. And if you pulled them on there methods you’d be labelled a trouble maker.
the worst was the health visitor for my son in 1984, she told me that i needed to be more careful with the nappy pins as i had obviously pricked my sons skin with it when changing him, I was incensed to say the least.
My son was in pampers, not a nappy pin in the house never mind near him, he has a small freckle just to the side of his stomach near the hip bone, he still has it today and so does his younger sister
I used to wait at the clinic door and see if she was around, only when she wasn’t would I go in.
Buts its so annoying that other people just assume that you have done something or not.
Please don’t slap anyone, walk away, have a long hot cappuccino and some cake (it works for me) and remember your are the mum and your brilliant at what you do regardless of who says what.
Thing is, Seafret, it’s the teacher’s job to assume you are not aware. She’s legally required to keep an eye on the kids under her care. You obviously know exactly what you are doing – but imagine if you didn’t, and your poor son was suffering because you’d never heard of eczema? I’m sure she knows what it is – but she’s not a doctor, she can’t diagnose, and she also can’t assume that you know what it is. Some parents don’t. It’s not a comment on you and your parenting, it’s her making sure that nobody slips through the cracks because she made an assumption about what certain parents do and don’t know. She saw a child with fairly obvious eczema and his medical records, as far as the school is concerned, don’t mention it. She did her job. It’s unfortunate that she rubbed you up the wrong way – but she was right to talk to you about it.
I’ve no idea what the secretary thought she was doing, though. Possibly being supportive. People like that do drive me nuts.
OMG! I can see why your angry. I’d go see the head, sit down and explain and say that you want this drilling into the teachers heads, that you know and are on top of it.
My daughter isn’t at school yet but I’m sure we’ll have our run ins lol.
Good Luck x
I know its aggravating for the school to talk to you like your a moron and to try to dictate what as a parent you should and are doing. The problem is schools now have to teach parents as well as their kids because a lot of parents are not doing what their suppose to. Try to grin and bear it because at least their trying to look out for the kids. They don’t know if your one that is doing the right thing or not so they treat everyone the same way.
I sympathise with you completely, sometimes I could quite cheerfully strangle them, they can be so patronising. I’ve always thought that teachers get this way because since they spend their whole day ordering children about, talking down to them and telling them what to do and how, they end up treating adults in the same way. My daughter’s autistic and they treat me as if I have no concept of this.
i know how you feel, my son has very sensitive skin, i use mild everything and unperfumed that on him, they went and wiped his face with a cheapo baby wipe, by the time i picked him up at 330 his face had erupted into big blisters, and red spots he was crying because the other kids were calling him names, ( he is only 5 ) the teachers said he had been dribbling causing his face to get sore in the wind…. AS IF… i took a pack of wipes into school for his own personal use , he ended up on antibiotics and ointment to get rid of them.. they are so stupid i felt like screaming
my daughter is allergies to strawberries and since she was little and her head start was in her school and the lunch ladies knew that and she got something red jello and ask what flavor one of the room moms told her it doesn’t matter she said yes i can’t have strawberries the mom said she was lying and mention it to the Principal and got a green one instead, and the principal to the mom she has allergies to strawberries. not changing the subject did u put it one the medical form u get in the beinging of the yr.
Unfortunately in this day and age everything comes under scrutiny right down to a bruised knee & schools are sometimes the only ones who can take responsibility for a child’s welfare. I can totally understand where you are coming from & why you are so angry as you do take care of your son & ensure that his eczema is kept at bay as well as you can. Just remember though, there are some children who aren’t fortunate enough to have a parent that takes care of them properly & that’s probably why the school intervened. Not to say you are a bad mother & belittle you but simply, just incase. IT’s the situation where you are damned if you do and damned if you don’t.