I Dont Want A Baby Shower, Not Like This I Mean?
1st of all i am creepd out by the living situation
i moved in with a couple in their early 40s and
the husb told me one day when i was set on leaving that “this is the best thing that could happen to her(his wife) shes been asking for a baby for awhile but were too old, so in a way its selfish”
so she wants2 give me a shower and invite everyone she knows kinda like its about her or something
i havent met any of those ppl
there her family and i dont knw them, so why would i want them there? is it her shower or mine?
first of all plz try to understand that i am not ungrateful but this whole thng is very hurtful towards me my parents are dead its kinda hard to celebrate w/o my family
it may be free stuff but i dont use ppl i dont knw them i dnt really want ppl there i have no memories with etc i cant really share it with them
and the woman i am living with bought a car seat for HER car why would she need one?
and also goes to my doctor appts dnt and has offered to come to the
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I agree with the 1st poster, it sounds like a creepy movie. It’s dangerous for pregnant women out there, there are wierdos who will kill pregnant women and take their babies. I would get out of there quicklike…don’t worry about burning bridges…That just seems scary. Good luck!
you should really move out. its like she is trying to take your baby. i would have left a long time ago. she is a lil creepy it sounds like.
I would get out of there- no forwarding address. This woman isn’t in her right mind, I’m afraid. I truly hope you have an alternative available.
Unless they plan on adopting the child, that is kind of creepy.
If you can afford it at all, move out ASAP.
If I were you, I’d have the shower, get the loot and RUN!!!
you need to get out the woman seems tapped. could your own family not accomodate you? good lcuk
First, you need to start setting limits and boundaries. These people might think you want them doing these things. Just smile and say “No thank you” you do not need to say “it’s too weird”. Actually I would avoid insulting them. Set the rules and start saying “No thank you”.
And I would move, if I were you.
If you don’t know this woman and she’s already showing possessive traits. She already bought a car seat for her car. Can you say Creeepy. Your right in the sense that the baby shower is more about her. She is already trying to become involved in almost every aspect. Honestly for the safety of you and your child you should move out. At this point I would fear her trying to raise the baby herself. Have you seen Rock the Cradle in a way it reminds me of that. I am fearful for you right now. Find someway to get out.
I must have misunderstood, I thought you barely knew the woman. You are not over reacting to the baby shower. Just tell her how you feel about it.
I dont think you are overreacting, its a little much.
In all honesty, she probably is not trying to be creepy or even thinks she is being overbearing, and I dont think she is a sick person, it is very hard to not be able to have a child, it can make people act strange. My sister cant have children and she wont even interact with my child.
BUT, the fact is, by doing all of these things for you, she is going to expect something in return. And if she is going overboard now, wait until the child gets here. She will use all these so called “favors” as leverage to make you feel like you owe her- on purpose or not, she will try to make you feel guilty so you do what she wants.
Dont hurt her feelings, b/c I dont think she is trying to hurt yours, she just isnt being realistic right now. I think the only solution, if possible, is to distance yourself from these people. Maybe not forever, but I dont think she is being healthy enough to have such an impact on you and your child. Good luck, and do what you think is best. Regardless if anyone thinks your overreacting, if you feel uncomfortable, then make it better, you owe no one any explanation except, BECAUSE.
Well I can see where you are coming from…
Why don’t you invite your friends too that way it wont be just her friends.
They do sound creepy but use this time to save some $$ so you can move out and support your new baby.
I have no idea how old you are but I honestly thing you need to find another living situation. The lady you are living with sounds kind of creepy imo and sounds like she is trying to take over your role as a mom. Just reading this made me think of some bad movie, so just be careful please!!
First, you need to sit the couple down and thank them for their kindness for letting you live with them. And then tell them that you would appreciate it if they call off the baby shower. If they ask why, tell them how you feel; that you are uncomfortable having strangers at your baby shower but that you still appreciate their thoughtfulness towards you and the baby. Try to be nice and patient with them so you don’t burn any bridges or make enemies.
I don’t think the couple (or at least the woman) would be able to keep their noses out of your business most especially when your baby arrives. You should bring your baby into a better living situation. Ask friends and family to help you find a new place for you and your baby BEFORE he is born. Tell them what’s going on and I’m sure they’ll understand. That way, you’ll be a lot happier and feel comfortable.
If the woman still tries to be a part of your life (or the baby’s) after you moved, kindly tell her you can do things by yourself or that you want some alone time and hope she understands where you are coming from. To protect yourself from anything the couple might try, you should ask someone who can help. Ask a police officer what you can do to make sure the couple doesn’t make any trouble for you.
Paying rent for a better place that can provide peace of mind is better than worrying what’s going on in that couple’s head.
PS: I thought you barely know the woman. Since she’s your friend, just talk to her and tell her that you appreciate her effort but that you’d rather have people you know at your baby shower. Tell her that she shouldn’t worry too much about you and that you have everything in control. Nicely, of course =)
Still, it’s not bad to tell them that you want lots of alone time with your baby when your baby comes.