As an adoptee – I know how profoundly the loss of mother affects one, throughout many stages of life. I wouldn’t wish this on ANYONE. As a child I was so lonely for her, but I kept my hurt hidden and many people probably would have used me as an example of a kid who was happy being adopted.
As a mother I can’t imagine how I would go through life without my baby. I am the only one who can really intuit exactly what he needs. My body provides him with just the right nutrients for his growing body. I am the one who can calm him just by holding him in my arms.
I’ve learned how inexpensive babies really can be – I reasearched the benefits of breastfeeding, co-sleeping and cloth diapering and found them to be the best parenting choices I could make. It also happens they are very inexpensive. Perhaps the best things in life really are free.
Do mothers underestimate how utterly important they are to their babies? Why don’t they understand that STUFF is no substitute for themselves?

I just can’t get this outta the back of my mind!!! My baby shower was in May and my mother in law didn’t get me a gift for the baby. Now, I’m not one who’s out to get stuff for free, this isn’t about money, but to me it’s about the moral of the whole idea. A couple of days after my baby shower(which was at my mother in law’s home, which by the way her contribution was having the shower in her home, she didn’t even clean up before hand, and she made macaroni salad…and my mother paid for EVERYTHING else) my inlaw complained to me that she was running low on cash since the shower…now months before the inlaws told me they’d get me a swing for the baby…the next day my mother in law told me she’d buy the swing and then mentioned again days later how low on cash she was running. so i told my husband to tell her not to buy the swing until she had the extra money…’cause the last thing I’d want to do was put them out of cash to buy daily necessities. So he told his mom….THEN…within the next week my sister in law (also, prego…due 6 weeks after me…I was june and she was july) finds the “crib” of her dreams….and yep mommy went and bought it for her…needless to say I bought my own swing and they bought nothing. I found out later on that my father in law gave my mother in law the $$$ in the beginning of may for the swing and it was never bought!!! Also, just in conversation my mother in law mentioned that she had had a blanket knitted for my step son when he was born and this and that(8yrs ago)…plus his bday feel a weeks before my child was born and she spent money right in front of me buying him quite a few gifts for his birthday!!! I have a pretty descend job and my inlaws know i make descend money…so I’m not sure if that’s the reason or not that she won’t buy my son anything!!! My feeling are so hurt by this. I know that my mother in law loves my son, so why’d she do this….and it’ been mentioned that they ( the inlaws) know they still haven’t bought the baby anything…i don’t think it’s a cash issue ’cause my father in law just bought a $4000 toy!!! I couldn’t stand it and I told my mother in law my feelings very nicely(don’t know if I should have) and she responded with “well…your just sooo hard to please, I didn’t think you’d like anything I got for you”…she had no basis to go off of with that remark…idk…but I just can’t get her frugalness outta my head everytime I see her!!!

Now my first problem is that I live with my husband parents and we have a baby. But if anyone who is kinda in the same situation, did they find their mother in law way more annoying or overbearing when they had a baby? I mean my mother in law is over bearing and gives advice when its not need but I can’t stand her now. We live with her and she will go in and walk the baby up in the morning before she goes to work, kisses all over him, calls and is like let me talk to him, claims him as hers and I can’t stand it. I have tried to set boundaries but its not work. She wants to do all the firsts with him like feed him his first bowl of baby cereral, had to be involved with the first bath and all that and I can not stand it. I have told my husband but he’s like we have to deal with it because she lets us live there for free, buys all our food, constantly buys stuff for the baby and I just don’t know what to do any more!
Any advice, stories, comments. This is kinda a venting story but..

My cousin brother,s child is 6 yrs old .The child,s mother want to teach the kid reading therefore she want to teach the kid phonics.The mother never spoke English .So please teach her online phonics for her baby.For learning please give your yahoo messenger ID and G.M.T time.

In the town I live in, there is a HOPE pregnancy center. There you can take parenting classes and you get “mommy money” and if the father takes them as well, they get “daddy dough” to go shopping in the baby shop when you complete homework and complete the classes. There you can get baby clothes and items with the “mommy money” and “daddy dough”.
Good luck with your pregnancy!