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Sorry if this is very long, but I wanted to make sure everyone got a bit of an understanding of what I’m going through. I am a first time mom, so all this is very new to me. My sister and sister-in-law (brother’s sister) were asking me about having a baby shower and I asked them if they would want to help. I’m not sure if this is where the confusion started since I asked them if they ‘wanted to help’ versus ‘wanting to throw me a shower’. They both have 2 children, so I figured they would know how things work.
I assumed from the beginning that I was supposed to be paying for everything. They never told me any different. They offered to help pay for some things and I was very grateful. However, EVERYONE was asking me why I was paying anything towards my own baby shower when I started talking about budgeting for it. At one point, my sister even told me that she didn’t think I understood how showers work and that I was supposed to sit back and let them handle everything. She said ‘let us handle this, we’re the ones that have done this before’. So, they basically wanted me to sit back and let them plan everything at mostly my expense. I didn’t know any better. I didn’t know that in their eyes a baby shower was white linens and catered food with little or no games or decorations. They were talking about taste testing the caterer foods and one of them even spent $90 on lotions, soaps, and little prize gifts for the 25-30 people I wanted to invite (after I mentioned I wanted to have games). I had no idea they thought a baby shower was this way or that they would spend that kind of money just on gifts for the guests. They paid for the lotions, prize gifts, and cake, so I didn’t complain. As least not yet.
But every idea I had, they disagreed with. They even stepped on my toes and almost screwed the FREE facility I was able to work out for the place to have the party. Finally, I asked them as nicely as I could about the fact that people were saying I’m not supposed to pay for my shower. They, of course, were quick to say they couldn’t pay for everything because of the economy, etc. And, that they could only put in about $150 each, which they had already spent most of just on the lotions, gift prizes, and a cake. They even said that both of them paid for their baby showers themselves and that they thought I was crazy to think they would be able to pay for everything. (I found out later that each of them had TWO baby showers, with at least one of the showers totally funded by someone else).
Personally, I was thinking of a cheap cake and some cute cheap party favors for less than $50. Maybe, I’m missing something. Hey, I understand that the economy is bad, so I gave them the option to walk away. They didn’t want to. So, now I’m forced to look like the bad guy and only allow them to make decisions based on what they are willing to pay for. I can’t afford to throw my own baby shower on their champagne taste. They even asked me if I could ask my husband’s side of the family to help financially with the baby shower. I refused. I do not think it is my place to ask people for money for my shower. I felt bad enough having to have this conversation with THEM about money. They couldn’t understand that I saw no point in throwing a shower if the cost of the shower was going to be the same or more than the cost of the gifts I would receive. I get the feeling they are more about the ‘look at me’ factor than the actual purpose of having a baby shower. I actually would love to just cancel it and buy the baby stuff myself, but I’m trying to not kill my relationship with my sisters totally.
So, I figured if I have to pay for the food and make the crafty items, I shouldn’t have to run it by them. I don’t have the $400 or more for just the food that they were originally planning for. If I spent that on food, I couldn’t buy the plates to put the food on!!! In my mind, when I thought I was supposed to be paying for it, I was only wanting to spend $300 AT THE MOST to throw the entire party. Does anyone think I’m being too mean? What would you do in this situation?

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My husband and I were trying to figure out what the point of having a baby shower is besides to get people to buy you things.

So i am trying to search for some baby shower games
and i come across bingo
i am kind of confused
The guests play? and what happens when they win? they get a gift?
And what were your fav shower games? This is my first baby so any ideas on what is fun and websites that give good free stuff to print out would be much appreciated
Thanks

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This way i can hitt up all the people i know for free stuff. Who cares if they really want too, now they will be obligated! Has anyone done this? does it work well?

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My husband and I are expecting our first boy next month. (He has a daughter & I have 2). He considers my daughters as his too but this will be both of our 1st boy. I have NEVER had a baby shower before and my husband and I were wondering if we could throw our own baby shower. We don’t want to seem selfish but we would just like a baby shower for our son.
I never had one with my 2 kids, because my baby daddy never cared about what i would like or anything. & because he never really allowed me to be with my friends or family. but my husband now is in FULL support.
What do you think? We dont want people thinking we are just throwing a shower to get free stuff out of them, we just want to have an experience. Please give me some advice, Thank You!