Would You Rather Have Your Baby Be Happy Or Healthy?
My 4 month old baby is allergic to a ton of stuff. The doctors can’t figure it all out. He is currently breastfed and always moody, fussy, and cries all the time. He is terrible ezcema.
I’ve spent a great deal of time omitting all kinds of different foods from my diet for the last month (eggs, milk products, soy, chocolate, wheat, etc). He is still fussy and unhappy with bad ezcema.
The allergy doctor wanted us to try the baby on Neocate formula for one week. My son is doing SO much better. His ezcema is clearning up and he cries way less. He is fun to be around now..whereas he wasn’t before. (I’ve been pumping like crazy to make sure I keep my milk).
So my question is would you rather put your baby on formula to make him happy and free of ezcema and fun to be around?
Or keep him on breastmilk where he will continue to get my immunities and all the other goodies?
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The saying “Breast milk is best” does NOT mean “Formula is rat poison.”
Formula was made for moms in your specific situation, where the baby just can’t handle her milk and is better off having formula.
You are a great mom, and if the formula keeps you both happy, then use it. It’s more important for you to be able to raise him in a loving environment versus a stressed out one.
Plus, happy people get sick a lot less than depressed people and neither of you deserves that!
OMG…the formula of course….why would you even ask…
You gave him the best start he could have just staying withit as long as you did. The 1st few weeks with the colostrum and other antibodies will go far in helping his immune system develop and protect him…..he will be HEALTHY even on formula, so dont worry and be HAPPY!!!!
I would have to say to go with the formula. Although breast feeding is best you certainly have given it a good shot. It is not an either or deal as most people would have you believe.
I have 6 kids who were all bottle fed. They are all very healthy and happy. Sounds like this baby would actually be healthier with the formula. Don’t beat yourself up over this. Enjoy your baby.
I think the baby is Happy if he is Healthy. So yes I would put him on the formula and from what u have written looks like, the immunities and goodies he is getting from breastmilk have been outweighed by the harm it is doing to him.
Did the doctor have anything to say about eventually trying to re-introduce breast milk? (Mostly asking out of curiousity.)
But, that said, your situation = the reason formula exists. Or the reason it should, anyway. Nice to hear your baby’s happy (I remember your earlier question) now…!
In your situation, go with the formula. He will still be a healthy baby. You have breastfed for a long enough time to know that you baby has sufficient nutrients to have strengthened his immune system.
Keep up to date with immunizations, and follow a healthy diet when introducing solids and I’m sure he will be fine.
Neocate is a wonderful formula. He is getting nothing from your breastmilk that is worth it if you and he are both miserable. Despite your good intentions you would be doing more harm than good if you keep him on the breastmilk. Ask the doctor if you can give him one bottle a day of breastmilk a day or just nurse him to sleep at night. I know it will be hard but it is probably in his and you best interest to stop the breastmilk. I used Neocate with my daughter and I was really pleased with it.
I would rather have my kid on formula and be happy and healthy. Which all my kids have been on formula.
I would say both happy and healthy. Just because you put him on formula doesn’t mean your son won’t be healthy. I couldn’t breast feed like I would have liked to of. But my son has been completely healthy even though he’s been fed formula. He hasn’t been sick a day in his life so far and He’s 10 months old and a happy, healthy baby.
Baby has all the immunities you can pass to him now with having breastfed for 4 months. My breast milk only lasted 6 weeks and even then I had to supplement from day 1 and my 4 month old hasn’t anything more than a runny nose (and that’s with Daddy having a bad lung infection right now) so I would say my guy is pretty healthy.
I would definitely go for happy because I feel that emotional health can impact your physical health and feeling miserable and cranky all the time can not be healthy. Go with the formula and enjoy your baby. If you really want to go back to breastfeeding then you need to make some major changes to your diet to remove all possible allergens (it’s going to be some pretty bland boring eating for two weeks with no eggs, dairy, wheat, processed sugars, food dyes, preservatives, peanut butter, strawberries and I’m sure your doctor will have more foods to add to the do not eat list). Even that is still not a guarantee that baby will switch back and not get the eczema again.
Good luck!
It is just as likely that your baby will be healthy with formula so it’s not like you are choosing between good and evil.
My suggestion would be to contact either a lactation consultant or an alternative therapy doctor. Find out if they have any other suggestions if you are still devoted to breastfeeding. For my money, and having eczema myself, I think you already have the best solution and should just stick with that. There are occasions where breast isn’t best because something can’t be eliminated.
Just because a baby is given formula instead of breastmilk doesn’t mean he will be unhealthy!!! Formula fed babies do just fine. I was formula fed and I’m healthy without allergies.
Umm.. well obviously there is a clear answer here. Keep him on formula! (Trust me I am for breastfeeding. I breastfeed my son and I am very happy that I can do that) Formula is giving him all the nutrients he needs, so really your not making him unhealthy if your not breastfeeding him. Your making him more healthy, and for that he is more happy. I’m sorry that he cannot breastfeed, trust me I’d be heart broken if I could not breastfeed my son. I enjoy it very much and I think it’s the best choice a mother can make for their baby. But in your case, breastfeeding is just not the best choice.